5 Mindsets That Interfere With a Relationship
Published On: May 11, 2015
- Fear of or worry about a situation or of a person: “I perceive a threat in you or am afraid you may not like me so I am on the defensive.”
- Desire that this moment or person will meet my demands of expectations, grant me my needed emotional supplies, or fulfill my wishes: “I am trying to get something from this or you.”
- Judgement can take the form of admiration, criticism, humor, moralism, positive or negative bias, censure, labeling, praise, or blame: “I am caught up in my own opinion about you or this.”
- Control happens when we force our own view or plan on someone else: “I am attached to a particular outcome and am caught in the need to fix, persuade, advise, or change you.”
- Illusion overrides reality and may occur as denial, projection, fantasy, hope, idealization, depreciation, or wish: “ I have a mental picture of my belief about you or this and it obscures what you are really like.”
Mark Laing, Counselor & Therapist
Hamilton/Burlington
Focus: Individual, Couple & Marital Counseling, Communication, Pornography Addictions, Affair Recovery, Boundries, Anxiety/Depression, Anger
