Nearly every parent will see their child get angry. This experience commonly happens during a child’s adolescence, which can surprise you if your child used to be even-tempered. Teens can feel angry for any number of reasons, whether due to issues at home or school or how they feel about themselves, their friends, their future, or something else.
Teenage anger might be inevitable, but by taking the time to understand it you can foster a healthy and productive relationship with your teen.
Adolescence is a transformative time. This period between childhood and adulthood brings a rush of changes, including physical development, social changes, and hormonal influences.
Although a teenager’s emotional system develops rather quickly at this point in their life, the part of their brain responsible for logic is years from being fully developed. As a result, mood swings generally coincide with teenage years, which can help explain recurring moments of adolescent anger.
In addition to the mental and physical changes teens experience, they also deal with external factors and personal issues that might manifest as teenage anger. Any one of the following situations can explain why your teen reacts or behaves irritably:
Dealing with an angry teenager is difficult for any parent to navigate, but by remembering a few considerations, you can break through their anger and help them manage it.
Remain Patient and Calm
When your teen is emotional and angry, maintain your composure and don’t resort to yelling back at them. Validate their feelings, and realize their feelings are likely due to emotional stimuli, meaning logic probably isn’t the best way forward.
Remain calm and practice deep breathing if the situation becomes stressful.
Set and Respect Reasonable Boundaries
Sometimes you need to set boundaries with your teen so they know what’s acceptable when feeling and expressing their anger. This means being firm yet reasonable, such as allowing certain times when they can play video games. If your teen responds with excessive yelling or physical violence, remove their gaming privilege until their behaviour improves.
Conversely, if your teen is visibly upset and says they need space, respect their wishes while reminding them that you’re there for whatever they need.
Understanding where your teen’s anger comes from is crucial to maintaining a healthy relationship with them. Getting to that point can be difficult if they’re feeling particularly irate, have a mental health condition, or shut down whenever you try to get a conversation going.
Bayridge offers online therapy and counselling services with over 25 years of experience. We have 50+ mental wellness professionals to choose from and our caring client coordinators can help match you with the right therapist for your needs. In addition to in-person appointments, you are also able to schedule a session via phone or video call. Contact Bayridge Counselling Centres today at (905) 319-1488 to learn more about how we can help you understand your teen’s anger.